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Sex education tips
Perhaps everyone agrees that children must be taught to have the right attitude towards sex, but at the same time each parent has his own opinion on what exactly a child must be taught, where and who should do that. The results of recent researches show that only a few parents know how to give their children necessary sex education. Unfortunately, teens and children acquire the biggest part of information about sexual relationships from their friends, rather than from their parents.
Some parents consider sex education to be unnecessary, however they do not take into consideration the fact that parents cannot prevent a child from acquiring information he or she is interested in. Other parents realize this fact and do not want their children to be misled by myths, rumors and simply wrong ideas related to sex which are so spred among adolescents who lack the necessary knowledge about human physiology, sexual relationships, contraception and many other things sex education implies. However, even those who realize the necessity of sex education do not know what to begin with and how to speak to a child whose psyche is so vulnerable.
The way you are going to speak with your child about sex greatly depends on your child’s or teen’s age, some personal qualities and many other factors. However, there are some general tips parents should take into consideration when discussing with their children matters related to sex
• Try to speak and behave naturally, like you are speaking about anything else
• Avoid long and didactic lectures on human sexuality and physiology. Usually a child cannot maintain his attention for a long time, he wants to ask questions and to get simple and short and answers
• If your daughter or son uses improper words that patiently explain to him or her what these words mean and why they should not be pronounced. For example, you can say “Other people would not like to hear such words” “I do not think this is the best way to tell what you are feeling”. Anger or jokes as a reaction to improper words said by a child usually provoke the child to repeat such words again and again
• Even preschool children should know how to protect themselves against sexual violence. This means you must teach your child to say “no” when necessary. A kid should be aware that some adults are dangerous, and he must not be afraid to refuse going somewhere with a maniac
• You should begin speaking about sexual maturation long before your child’s adolescence. Some physiological changes (including menstruations and pollutions) might occur even before a girl or a boy is ten years old
• Boys should be told about menstruations, and girls should know what pollutions are. Do not neglect discussing such matters as homosexuality and prostitution. Anyway, your child will learn about these phenomena from TV programs or Internet articles. It is quite natural that such problems arouse children’s interest
• Tell your child about AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, but try to do this taking into consideration your child’s reactions. There is not necessity to frighten a five or a six year child by telling him about death AIDS usually ends with. On the other hand, it will be no good if you put off this conversation until your child reaches adolescence. Even small children should know what AIDS is and how it is transmitted
• Answer all your child’s questions, do not say “You are too little to understand this”, otherwise he or she will stop trusting you. No question your child asks must remain without answer
• If you do not know something, than do not be ashamed to admit this. Promise your child you will find out everything he or she is interested in and necessarily keep your promise
• After you answer your child’s questions, make sure he understood what you said
• Your child must be sure he is always welcome to ask his or her questions. Only in this case you will manage to create trustful atmosphere in your family and will prevent crucial mistakes your daughter might make.